Why Racism Is Like Being In An Abusive Relationship
All our silences in the face of racist assault are acts of complicity. Bell Hooks I am sure that you like me have been impacted, in one way or another, by events in the world right now. For sure,...
View ArticleBoundaries In Relationships: How To Know When You Need To Take Control
So what’s your favourite season? I love the autumn, and it’s definitely on its way! Right now, I’m looking outside my window and noticing the leaves blowing around in the light breeze. Some get blown...
View ArticleOne Thing You Should Know About The Pain Of Grief
Grief is a natural part of life. Most people don’t get through life, avoiding it. Surprisingly we don’t just grieve when a person has died. We also grieve when a relationship has died, and you’ve...
View ArticleHere’s How To Improve Your Self-Care Practice Today
How do you nourish your body and mind and improve your self-care? Self-care has never been more critical for everyone. And yes, that includes you! The COVID19 pandemic has given us plenty of reasons to...
View Article3 Things You Need to Know About Letting Go
Nature has so much to tell us about letting go. I’m looking out of my window here in London, England and I can see some evergreens, but some of the most striking trees are bare. They let go of their...
View ArticleWhat To Expect When You Have Couple Counselling
Couples counselling isn’t complicated. It’s a specific form of talking therapy where two people sit down with a counsellor to talk about their relationship. The world seemed surprised when Michelle...
View ArticleComplex PTSD: How Early Relational Trauma Impacts Relationships
Complex PTSD leaves you with a lack of certainty about what a loving relationship is, meaning they often feel hard. I have been working as a therapist for over ten years, and in that time, I have...
View ArticleDo You Struggle With Your Feelings?
Can I ask something super random? How are you feeling today? Are you: Okay Fine Alright Well Could be better Good Okay maybe the question isn’t that random, but does it fill you with dread? Or...
View ArticleWhat’s Your Love Language?
Okay, so I’ve missed Valentines Day. It will come again. But in the meantime, do you know what your love language is? Many women in what I call starving or hungry relationships have lost sight of how...
View ArticleOne Positive Affirmation to Nourish Your Soul
How has this week got you down so far? In case you needed an extra boost, I’m sending good vibes your way today and always! But I’m wondering what’s something that makes even the most terrible time...
View ArticleUnderstanding Hope in Your Relationship
Before you can understand hope in your relationship we have to ask. What does hope mean to you? The dictionary definition of hope is: “A feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to...
View ArticleThe Surprising Reason Our Relationships Are A Gift
Relationships come in many forms. But have you ever considered that your relationships are a gift in some way or another? Different types of relationships can give us a lot, but many also take from us....
View Article3 Tips To Help You Start Looking After You
If you’re anything like me, time is precious. Many of us are constantly on the go with day-to-day life, work, children, pets, and families or friends. Or you may be struggling with a lack of motivation...
View ArticleShould I Stay or Should I Go
Deciding on marriage or long term committed partnership and should I stay or go is hugely challenging to make. Divorce or separation means disentangling many different strands of your life, finances,...
View Article5 Habits That Keep Your Marriage Stuck
What kind of marriage are you co-creating? A relationship is co-created by the couple and has a life of its own. When working with couples in couples therapy, I consider the relationship the third...
View ArticleThe Truth About Deciding To Stay Or Leave
We all have insecurities and doubts about ourselves and the consequences of our decisions in our lives, particularly when deciding to stay or leave a marriage or long term committed relationship. Even...
View ArticleShould I Stay Married?
I get why so many women carry marital doubts alone, wondering should I stay married? I don’t know about you, but I grew up with the golden household rule ‘don’t chat yuh buziness!’ It’s a story I...
View Article8 Myths About Marriage You Must Break To Have A Mature Relationship
Let’s have a chat about common myths around marriage. Stories about relationships date back to time immemorial. In Greek mythology, we have the story of Hera, the Goddess of marriage, who longed to be...
View ArticleHow To Tell If Your Are At Risk Of Having An Emotional Affair
I have sat with many couples, both personally and professionally, who are grappling with the impact of an affair on the relationship. An emotional affair can be particularly confusing. In some...
View Article21 Painful Losses You Might Not Expect In Divorce
Divorce isn’t always painful. But what is always part of a divorce or separation is loss. Divorce is all about loss. There’s no avoiding it. Even if separation or the end of the marriage is...
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